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DIFFERENT LOVING is the first and only mainstream book to explore and demystify the worlds of BDSM, sexual power relationships, and fetishism. Drawing on extensive scholarly research and interviews with hundreds of consenting adults, DIFFERENT LOVING has been called "the Bible of D&S;" and has been critically acclaimed as a ground-breaking study into who we are, what we do, and why we do it.

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"We start from the premise that sex for pleasure is a normal human drive and is acceptable when it brings pleasure to both partners. From this perspective, D&S; is simply a 'different' kind of loving." --Brame, Brame, and Jacobs

was selected by the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) as a top pick for their Christmas book list, 1993.

Playboy called it: "A detailed, eye-opening account of the real sexual underground in America...a thorough and serious study."

The South Bend Tribune observed: "As a window on largely unexplored territory, Different Loving is a breakthrough in the dialogue on human sexuality and a significant work of popular sociology."

Drummer said it is: "A handsome, well-researched, carefully written volume from a major publishing house. Here is frank discussion of everything from pain play to piss to piercing to power games."

Bondage Life raved: "Finally, a book that comprehensively discusses sexual power exchange! We recommend that you memorize the title and authors and run right out and buy it."

Sandmutopia Guardian advised: "Buy this book, read it, and give it to people by whom you wish to be understood."

Praised by sexologists, reviewers, and readers alike as "the Bible of D&S," DIFFERENT LOVING: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission was written to demystify the widely misunderstand sexuality known broadly as sadomasochism (also as D&S; and BDSM). First published in 1993, DL sold out its first hard-cover printing in 10 months and sold out a second run eight months later. Re-released in 1996 and now in its fifth printing in the US, DL raised immediate controversy in publishing circles as the first and only book from a major American publisher to take a candid and sympathetic, non-clinical view of real sadomasochistic practices.

Co-authors Gloria G. Brame, William D. Brame, and Jon Jacobs spent three years researching and documenting the D&S; communities and interviewed over 150 people, straight, gay, and bisexual, who enjoy different styles of loving. Interviewees tell readers, in their own words, about their lives, their desires, their experiences, and their unusual relationships.

"A comprehensive primer of loving with leather and romance by riding crop."
---Michael Musto, NEW YORK DAILY NEWS

"This book's the real thing!!! A must have for your personal library."
---Brenda Tatelbaum, EIDOS

"Compelling and Enlightening Reading."
---THE SEXUALITY LIBRARY

"A long, leisurely journey through the wilder provinces of eroticism and sex play. . .an accurate and exciting picture of some of the more interesting aspects of modern sexuality. Different Loving is a really good read. . . . There's something exciting in here for everyone. You can pick it up and start anywhere, stop anywhere, and it's full of juicy personal experiences."
---INTERNATIONAL TATTOO ART

". . .deciphers the erotic mysteries of bondage, spanking, whipping, body piercing, diaper wearing--even enemas. And it doesn't come wrapped in brown paper."
---NEW YORK NEWSDAY

"Different Loving is a brave, provocative documentation of a lifestyle we've all been at least a little curious about."
--- PLATINUM

"This discriminating work of non-fiction is highly recommended ..."
---O MAGAZINE