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Looking for advice on BDSM/fetish
sex?
HAVE QUESTIONS? LOOKING FOR ANSWERS?
BDSM Transcipts
You might be able
to find what you're looking for right here.
The following is
an archive of the chat transcripts from the Different Loving
magazine which I co-founded, with Dr. Sandor Gardos, on THRIVE
(on AOL) in 1998. As host of the weekly kinky sex chat, I covered
a vast range of topics, concerns, and offered tons of practical
advice about BDSM/fetish sex. So please take a look at the list
of contents below and perhaps you'll find just the kind of advice
you're seeking.
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March 12, 2021
Dealing With all the Different
Styles of Lifestyle; Philisophical Differences; Are Enemas A
Necessity With Anal in BDSM?; Dealing With Your Parents Not
Understanding the Lifestyle; Resources Related to the BDSM Lifestyle;
Fulfilling Your Fantasies Behind Your Partner's Back; What to
Expect at a Fetish Ball; Going to Clubs Where Your Submissive
May or May Not Be Comfortable; Dealing With Non- Consensual
Assault on Submissives
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March 5, 2021
Role of Body Piercing in S&M;
Body Piercings in General; Spanking Desires; Bondage Desires;
Japanese Bondage; The Story of O; Parachutes
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February 19, 2021
Getting Your SO Interested in
the D/S Lifestyle; Can Fantasy Become an Obsession?; Writing;
Fisting; Sjambok: what is it?; Is it Common For a Sub to Feel
They Don't Need A Dom/Domme?; Toys for S/M Play; Should One
Mention Her Kink to A Gynecologist? CBT
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February 12, 2021
The Black Rose; Fem Sub Issues;
How Negative Experiences Can Affect a Sub; Being Submissive When
You Feel Dominant; S/M References; Does Love Play a Part in a
D/S Relationship? The Trust Factor; Slave or Submissive?
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February 5, 2021
Tongue Forceps; Male Submissive
Wants Two Female Tops; Is Consent Implied in a Dom/Sub Relationship?
Glory's Gardening Site; Easing Your Vanilla Partner into the BDSM
Lifestyle
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January 28, 2021
Casual Chat; BDSM and Childhood
Traumas
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January 15, 2021
SPECIAL TWO-HOUR CONFERENCE, With
Guest Will Brame!
Will Gloria Publish Another Book?; Role of Punishment vs Discipline;
Converting You Significant Other; When a Sub Feels Neglected;
Polyamory; Handling Jealousy/Possessiveness; When Your SO Wants
to Add a Third Person and You Don't; Dealing With Preference Difference
Issues; Dom to ALL, Submissive to Only ONE; Do Subs Ever Get into
Non-submissive Moods?; BDSM-Result of Nature or Nurturing
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January 8, 2021
Meeting Others in the BDSM Scene;
Finding a Dominatrix; Dealing With Self Embarrassment Related
to Desires; A Guest Discusses Her First Real Life Meeting with
her Dom
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The chat room was closed
for the Winter holidays
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December 18, 2020
Glory's Toy of the Week; Who is
More into Kink--Men or Women?; Who Leans More Towards Kink--Weak
or Powerful/Rich or Poor?; When is a Person "Successful" at
BDSM?; First Meeting With a Dom--Safety Factors
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December 11, 2020
Author of The Loving Dominant?;
From Online D/S to Offline; BDSM Toys; Sadism; What Turns a Sadist
On?; Glory For President; Do Men Make Good Doms?; Recommended
"Floggers"
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December 4, 2020
DOMINA; Experience at a BDSM Club;
Love in a BDSM Relationship; CBT Safety; Proper Terminology for
SM or D/S Lifestyles; Genital Piercing; Waxing; Ratio of Male/Female,
Dom/Subs
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The chat room was closed
for the Thanksgiving holidays
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November 13, 2020
Who Has Met Gloria Brame In Person?;
Getting Past the Fear of Being Submissive; What is A Submissive?;
Would A Dom Be Bored With a Perfect Sub?
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November 6, 2020
Gloria's TV Appearance; What is
BDSM?; Using Bondage to Heighten Sexual Pleasure; "Rules" of BDSM;
Importance of Communication; Knowledge, The Power; Switching;
When Your Partner Shows no Interest in a Dom/Sub Relationship
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October 30, 2020
Gloria's TV Appearance; Having a
Threesome; Length of Time for a Kink Session; "Otherworld Kingdom";
Discussing Anal Sex with a Partner; Body Piercing; "Cock and Ball
Torture"; Meeting Folks Who Share the Same BDSM Interests; Playing
Safe with Bondage
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October 23, 2020
Is BDSM Safe?; What to Do When Your
Domme Mate is Away; Favorite Toys; Cyber D/S Relationships; Sites
For Information on "Toys"; Maintaining Your Lifestyle with Company
in the House; BDSM Sites on the Web; Wanting to Watch Wife with
Another Man
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October 16, 2020
Going from BDSM to a "Traditional"
Relationship; Sexual Preferences Set Early in Life?; Handling
a 24/7, D/S Relationship; Retrograde Ejaculation/Tantra Technique;
Tink's Diaper Experience
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October 9, 2020
Love & Leather Weekend; Coming Down
After a Session; Keeping a Long-Distance D&S; Relationship Alive;
Fantasizing about Eroticism; Clubs in NYC and San Francisco
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The October 2nd chat was
canceled
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September 25, 2020
Cyber vs Real Time BDSM; Does
Reality Destroy the Fantasy?; Treating A Sore Bottom; Custody
Battles Related to One's Lifestyle Choice; Maintaining a BDSM
and Vanilla Lifestyle At the Same Time; Knowing if You're Dom;
Does Submissiveness Carry Over into All Aspects of Life?; How
a Submissive Avoids Becoming a "Doormat"; Finding Out Just What
Others Want and Expect
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September 18, 2020
Learning to Surrender Control; Resolving
the Conflict of Control; Seeing Pro Dommes Exclusively; From No
Orgasms to Wet Dreams!
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September 11, 2020
Gloria's Path to BDSM; Pro Dommes;
What is PsychoDrama?; Introducing One in The World of BDSM; The
Dangers of The Fantasy of Asphyxiation; Being Submissive without
Giving up All Independence
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September 4, 2020
Genital Gloves; Fisting Safety;
Getting a Tough Behind from Too Much Spanking; What Affects One's
Tolerance to Pain?; "Resistance"
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August 28, 2020
Dressing for the Occasion; Can BDSM
be Therapeutic?; Getting a Partner Interested in Spanking; Dealing
With the Come Down After an Intense Scene; After Care and The
Dom's Responsibility; Hooking Up With People into BDSM; Vanilla;
Maintaining Safety; Recommended Reading; Gloria's Introduction
to the World of BDSM
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August 21, 2020
Submission: Need or Desire?; Do
Dominant People Ever Need to Feel Submissive?; Fearing Disapproval;
Denying One's Need for D/S; Communicating Your Needs to Your Partner
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August 14, 2020
What is Queening?; Do Submissives
Tend to Have a Past History of Abuse?; What Makes a Submissive
a Submissive?; Basics of a Healthy Dom/sub relationship; Fulfilling
the Desires of One's D/s Partner
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August 9, 2020
Collaring; BDSM Munches; Deafness
and Entering the Scene; Approaching Submission Without Entering
the Scene Fully; Disussing "Domina"
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July 26, 2020
It's all about DOMINA! Check out
the first official stop on my cybertour, and join the fun as
people keep asking me..."Is Domina YOU?"
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July 19, 2020
Losing Patience During Discipline;
Transgender as a Dominant; Resolving Emotional Conflicts as
a Sub; Abuse in a BDSM Relationship; Gloria's Book Release;
BDSM and Monogomy; Resolving Conflicts With Friendships vs Lifestyle;
What Makes a Person Want to Dominate Another?; Not Being a Doormat
as a Submissive.
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July 12, 2020
Nipple Clamps; Bondage Safety; Being
a Sub and Being into Pain/Bondage; Crying After Punishment; Blindfold
Safety; Stepping out of a Dom/Sub Relationship; Is a Dom/Sub Relationship
a 24/7 One?; Power Dynamics Between a Dom and Sub; How Does a
Sub Maintain His/Her Own Level of Self Confidence?; Finding a
Sub Mentor.
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July 5, 2020
Glory's New Book; Making Oral Sex
More Enjoyable; Thigh Highs; Taking Discussions Away from Play
Time; Sexual Intercourse in a D/S relationship.
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June 28, 2020
Suggested Reading for Dom/Dommes;
Do Subs Sometimes View Their Dom as a Parent Figure?; Where Should
a Beginner Dom Start?; Getting Started in the Dom/Sub Lifestyle;
Can a Domme Be Trained?; How Can a Sub Determine Excessive Punishment?;
When a New Sub has an Overwhelming Desire for a Dom; Switching
Top to Bottom and Vice Versa; Breast Sex Fetishes; Challenges
of Teaching Others About One's Fetish/Fetishes; Humiliation; Difference
Between a Sub and a Slave; Do Dom/Sub Relationships Last Longer
Than Vanilla Relationships?
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June 21, 2020
Gloria's New Book Release Date;
"Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns"; Finding Books Online; Side
effects of "long term" Anal Sex; Having Multiple Subs; How Gloria
Discovered the World of S&M;
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June 14, 2020
Good Lubricant for Strap Ons; Using
Condoms For Anal Sex; Chastity Belts; Gates of Hell; Talking Naughty
to One's Master; Can Couples Last When One Won't Indulge in the
Other's Kinks?
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June 7, 2020
Announcement: the passing of Leonard
(Dworkin) Wolf; When a sub is protective of his/her Dom; Can
Closeness Affect Effectiveness?; Should a Dom be Threatened
by a Sub's Power Away from the Relationship?; Dealing with a
Sub Who Misbehaves on Purpose to Receive Punishment; How Can
the Sub Express Needs Without Seeming Manipulative?; Using a
Crop vs Caning
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May 31, 2020
How Should a Submissive Treat
another Dom?; Bringing up Issues as a Sub to a Dom; Caning;
Going to a Pro-domme; Punishments; Punishment for a New Mom/Sub;
Are Some Women Turned on By Cross-Dressers?
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May 24, 2020
What's the time-frame before
going 24/7?, Is 24/7 Good For Couples?, Finding a Dominant,
Lifestyle vs Career, Finding a BDSM Munch, Can a True Dom or
Sub Switch?, Long Distance Sub/Dom Relationships
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May 17, 2020
Difference Between Codependence
and Submission, Can Submission Be Learned and Enjoyed, or is
it Inherent?, Switching Roles, Enemas, Kink Aware Professionals,
Does Being A Sub First Make One a Better Dom?, True Love in
a 24/7 relationship, Is it Safe to Use Ice?, Bondage and sanking,
unusual or not?, Sub Groups Online, Should Intercourse be a
Part of a Dom/Sub Relationship?, Alcohol Free BDSM Events: Good
or Bad?, First BDSM Encounter: Public v. Private.
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The May 10th chat was canceled.
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May 3, 2020
Safe Sex after Shaving, Hepatitis
and HIV, Losing a Job over Sexual Preference, BDSM Extramarital
Affair, and Masochistic Subs: How to Know When They Have Had
Enough.
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April 26, 2020
Meeting An Online "Friend," The
GOR Phenomenon, Cross Dressing Newbie, What is "Bidding" to a
Sub?, Hedonism in SM Society, New Sub
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April 19, 2020
Bondage Abductions Real? The Other
World Kingdom, DOMINA (Glory's New Book), What Does BDSM Stand
For?, Appearances by Gloria, KPOG Get Together, Is it OK to Fantasize
About Others Even in a Committed Relationship?, Is Using a Dildo
on a Man Kinky?, Free Bondage Stories on the Web, Do F/Doms Mentor
M/Doms?, What is a Body Slave?, Percentage of Population Interested
in BDSM, Why Won't Some People Who Enjoy Kink Talk About It?
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April 12, 2020
Being a Sub--No Sex Involved, Books
on Kink, Are Some People Trying to Work Out Childhood Issues?,
Blacklist of Doms/Subs on the Net?, Cyber Domming and Subbing?,
Professional Dommes, Is Sex Important in a Dom/Sub Relationship?
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April 5, 2021
Dom/Subs and Sexual Relations,
Pro vs Non Pro Dommes, Is D/s about Sex or is it an Emotional/Physical
Release?, Punishment
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March 29, 2021
More Safety Tips for First Encounters,
Seeking Medical Treatment and the Doctor's Obligation to Report
"Suspected Abuse," "Kink Aware Professionals"," What is an Evening
in Gloria's Lair Like?, Who is "Mr. Rattlesnake?"
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March 22, 2021
TPE vs 24/7, Should You Tell Family
About Your Chosen Lifestyle?, How to Meet People into BDSM, Handling
a Sub, Playing on a First Meeting: is it safe?, Importance of
Communication
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March 15, 2021
Submission and Feminism: The Conflict,
DOMINA, Bondage Safety Issues, Religious Conflicts, Is Switching
a Good Idea?, Painful Punishment vs Punishment vs Withholding
Affection, Excessive Submission?, 24/7 Dom/Sub Relationships,
I Want To Be Castrated.
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March 8,2021
Monogamy: Dom/Sub Conflicts, Safewords,
HitachiWand, Initial Meetings--Avoiding Danger, Recommended Reading
for Beginners, Waxing, Submissive Men/Cross Dressing, How to Handle
the Conflict Between Submissiveness and One's Feminist Side.
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March 1, 2021
Auto Fellatio, Book "Different Loving,"
GloryB's Web Site, Safe Words--Verbal/Non Verbal, The Importance
of Trust and Honesty in a Dom/Sub relationship, Satisfying One's
Curiosity about BDSM, Beginning a Dom/Sub relationship.
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February 22, 2021
Spanking Tips, Ways to Keep a Long
Distance D/S Relationship Spicy, What is an LDR?, How to Approach
your S/O about Your BDSM Desires, Physical Discipline and the
Boundaries of Masochism, Bondage Videos, What is "Worship?", How
to Find Others With an Interest in BDSM.
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February 15, 2021
A Sub's Moral Dilemma, Swinging,
Sub vs Slave, Mentors, Can SM Be Separate From D/S?, Spanking
and How to Include Your Significant Other, Bondage: Self and With
another, Dominant/Top-Sub/Bottom.
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February 8, 2021
Introducing One's Partner into Bondage,
Deaf People in the BDSM Scene, Info For New Doms/Subs, Safety
When Travelling with Equipment, Places to Avoid or Proceed with
Caution due to Legal Statutes
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February 1, 2021
Roman centurions/nipple rings,
Prince Albert/penis ring, writing Different Loving, effect of
Net on attitudes, laid back dominants, over achieving submissives,
BDSM coming out, D/s chat rooms, cyber role play, Gloria's upcoming
books
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January 25, 2021
BDSM and Beyond bulletin board policies,
AOL guidelines, BDSM online, power boxes, violet wands, copyright
questions, cyber relationships, Atlanta organizations, Master/slave
problem: unwilling to comply with order to have sex with other
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