| Question: I have a real problem and I'm desperate for help. I'm really into kinky sex but don't know how to ask my boyfriend if he wants to try it out in the bedroom. It's only things like handcuffs and whips, but I'm terrified he'll think I'm wierd. Answer: Perhaps where you really need to begin is not with convincing your boyfriend that kink is okay--but by convincing yourself that it is. If you're on-line, my site (gloriabrame.org --the "org" is for orgasm, of course) offers endless volumes of information and support for people interested in kinky sex. I think you'll find that if you yourself feel good about your desires, if you are able to reach a point where you understand that it can be a positive and loving expression of adult sexuality, and when you come to believe that you are entitled to sexual satisfaction on your own terms, it won't be so tough to tell him after all. In fact, it's always possible that he's been waiting and hoping for you to raise the subject. In my experience, sexual chemistry tends most often to occur between people who share similar fantasies. If the sexual chemistry between you and your boyfriend is powerful, well, you could be in for a pleasant surprise. And if he runs away screaming, well, I think I can pretty authoritatively state: he's not the guy for you! You deserve someone who can appreciate what a kinky sex siren has to offer. In fact, if the lady whose husband wears knickers (see below) should give up on him, you might want to give him a ring.
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