| Question: My husband has developed a liking for wearing my knickers when we make love. It really puts me off sex but he says it's the only way he can get excited. What other ways can I satisfy him. Answer: That's the bad news. The good news, however, is plentiful. Instead of seeing this as a negative, let's look at the positives. First, you are probably the first and only woman he's ever confided his little fetish to. That's a loving and intimate thing, when a partner can open up about his sexual secrets, and already puts you ahead of the millions of other wives whose husbands conceal their real desires from them--and end up spilling those secrets to prostitutes and sex-workers. Second, now that you know what really drives him wild in bed, you hold the key to your man's excitement. If you are a wife who cares about your husband's sexual satisfaction, what can be better than knowing how to unlock his eroticism and give him the best orgasms of his life? Third, instead of trying to change him, why not use his fetish to your benefit? Is there anything you wish he did more of in bed? Oral sex, perchance? It's perfectly legitimate for a woman to say "You can wear XYZ to bed all you like--as long as you give me what I want too." His fetish is not only a key to his sexuality, but can also be a bargaining chip for you to get all the pleasure YOU want out of the relationship. A lot of wives come to me complaining of their husband's "weird" fetishes and desires. In fact, I think what they often are complaining about is that their husbands are more sexually adventurous and less ashamed of their needs. As I see it, whether you call it a quirk, a kink, or a fetish, it's an opportunity for a couple to add unlimited spice to their sex lives. To put it in purely American terms: "YOU GO, GIRL." (And you might want to check out my book, COME HITHER, particularly my section titled "How to Eroticize ANYTHING," which teaches people how to expand their erotic horizons and appetites.)
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